Thursday, April 30, 2015

Say Hello



Sometimes I don't know what to say. Sometimes other bloggers don't know what to say. Sometimes we speak from our heart, sometimes we speak of our passion for our husbands. Right now many of the DD/ttwd blogs are stagnant. So I am turning to my lurkers to encourage comments/questions (respectful and non-invasive) to pose to their favorite bloggers. Let them know you are reading what they say, let them know when you can empathize and understand whatever it is you relate to within yourself.

Interaction is so critical to keeping the DD/ttwd blogs going. We bloggers all know we could just buy a diary and write the personal details of our lives there. But, instead we broadcast intimate details to the world in hopes we are able to feel connected to others like us, or that we make some of you thinking about DD/ttwd take a step and tell your partner your desires.

So if you are reading this, go take a moment to tell a favorite blogger you like their blog, or ask a question, or simply say something funny. It doesn't matter what you say (respectfully), as long as it is a positive interaction.

24 comments:

  1. Kathy,
    Well said........ I have a greeat deal of traffic and so folks are reading, but sadly not commenting. Great post.
    Meredith

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    1. Meredith,

      I am seeing the same. Lots of traffic, but hardly a comment. I though we could all use this as a way to help get out of a slump or inspire and thank our readers.

      Hugs,
      Kathy

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  2. A great idea as blogger does seem to be quite at the moment. So im going to make a point of adding those who comment here onto my blog roll if there not on it already lol

    So a question for you....

    5 things kink wise your keen to explore?

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    1. Good idea, Tori. I will begin drafting an honest and hopefully entertaining post to answer your question and will post it this weekend.

      Hugs,
      Kathy

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  3. Now that I'm trying to be more "present" with my blog and reading all my favorites I've been trying to comment when I read. I agree - we are putting ourselves out there hoping to make a connection. I hope everyone reading your blog takes your advice!

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    1. Hi Maggie,

      Its all about feeling connected to something and someone that makes us feel that we are not alone. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. Hopefully, we can get some of our favorite bloggers inspired and posting more actively, or get our readers commenting more often.

      Hugs,
      Kathy

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  4. I completely agree with you! So many lurkers visit, but they don't seem to want to stop and say hi.

    I am glad that you take the time to drop me a line and comment on my blog. I appreciate your blog and enjoy reading your posts. Please carry on!

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    1. CB,

      Thanks for visiting me. I am sure we will all break out of the cycle and things will be popping in our little corner of blog land. How is your guy doing? Depression still plaguing him?

      Hugs,
      Kathy

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  5. LOL Kathy...welcome to blogging. ;) We seem to have cycles where we'll get a lot of visits and comments but then it will turn around to where there are a lot of visits and very few comments. Write what you feel like sharing or have questions about...basically...just enjoy yourself. ;)

    Hugs and blessings...
    Cat

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    1. Cat,

      Oh boy! Be myself? Gonna be scary!

      All joking aside, I am trying to be more myself, it is just that sometimes I am unsure of what I should and should not post. Meaning, I sometimes want to write about the day-to-day things, the next day, I may want to write about some kinky/erotic thing that Jim and I have done (scared of confusing or alienating my readers). What can I say, I am NOT a very vanilla person.

      Hugs,
      Kathy

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  6. Hi Kathy, I generally comment on blogs I read but...
    sometimes I find myself knowing that what I would like to say is perhaps not tactful or polite so I just don't! Also sometimes I just think I don't know what to say to that! I don't want to offend anyone so I slink off back to where I came from if I find things a bit too much!
    love Jan,xx

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    1. Jan,

      There are times I do the same. I mean most of us share a LOT of our lives and some is not the easiest to respond to. Sometimes, I read things that shock me into silence (very rare, but it does happen).

      Hugs,
      Kathy

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  7. Finally, i figured out how to get to your blog. :) my blonde showed, as i didn't scroll down to see you had it in your google+. Looking forward to getting to know you.

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    1. His Slut,

      I really dislike my choice in linking Google+ to my blog. I am thinking about un-linking it as it serves no purpose other than to make my blog hard to find.

      I look forward to the same.

      Hugs,
      Kathy

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  8. I follow Tori`s blog and a few others and found yours via her recent posting, I do not have a blog of my own, but thought I would pop on to say "hello", nice to meet you Kathy, Nice Anon here Xx

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    1. Hello Anon,

      It is a pleasure to meet you as well (love Tori's blog too). No need to have a blog to be welcomed on mine...lol

      Hugs,
      Kathy

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  9. Hi Kathy, this is a great idea, I just read this on Tori's blog also. I follow a number of blogs and I try to comment every time I read. As Cat said, blogging does seem to gomin cycles. It is fairly quiet at the moment.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Roz,

      I had started to wonder if it was an issue with Blogger itself, but it is even slow with Wordpress. I will be glad when things pick up a bit.

      Hugs,
      Kathy

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  10. Stopping in to say hello. Looking forward to catching up on your previous posts!

    hugs

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    1. little girl,

      Thanks for stopping by. I am looking forward to the same.

      Hugs,
      Kathy

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  11. As "English Rose" stated, sometimes my reaction to a blog might be taken as impolite or negative. I try to hold back rather than be negative.
    Something I've seen on many blogs is the spankee or submissive partner in ttwd or DD relationships complains about not getting enough spankings, Hoh's seeming to lose interest in the lifestyle, or things just cool off for awhile. My reaction is something along the line of "this is normal, life gets in the way at times, or maybe the Hoh is dealing with work and parenting issues and doesn't want to also micro manage his wife all the time". Just try to be good to each other and many times the phase will pass by.These are just observations after being married a long time and observing other marriages, but would probably turn off or upset many bloggers.
    Like other readers, I appreciate your openness, so please keep on writing.

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  12. I found my way here from tori's blog. I love it when people comment on my blog, but as others have said people do tend to hold back. Our kinks are not always the same, but it doesn't mean we have to completely hold back. Being polite and kind is good though. Great to have found you and now I have some reading to do here!

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  13. For me, it's rare I even think negatively about anyone's blog. Haven't been active lately because Don seems to be in a lull and even tolerates my not so submissive behavior. It's fine most of the time for me. I've lived in a M/s lifestyle for so long that most of the time, I am submissive and serving but those times I get into a snit and storm away into the guest room for 12 hrs, it would be helpful to have him pull me back. We are not married and perhaps therein lies the difference.

    Enjoy all the bloggers out here. Thank you. J

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  14. Commenting can be hard for a lot of reasons. I was a huge lurker before I ever started a blog of my own. Interaction is what helps this community thrives and I do miss it and maybe we could all do a little bit better at encouraging/saying hello to the new bloggers :-)

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